As a women with an entrepreneurial spirit and a longing to be successful and share my purpose with the world I truly believe that keeping a positive mindset is the fastest way to achieve the success we crave. Sometimes that can be hard. Sometimes things get you down, whether it’s your kids complaining that you’re not spending enough time with them. Your husband feeling that you’re always on your phone. A customer you thought would be thrilled with your product or service isn’t. In Direct Sales our success very much depends on the success of others. We are successful all together, not one on our own. Now I love that mentality. But sometimes feeling like your success relies on other people can be incredibly draining and make you feel far from positive.
Firstly, I’d like to tell you to put your bloomin’ phone down. If you have hubby and/or the kids telling you that they’re not spending enough time with you then you need to get good at planning your time. You need to sit down and schedule when you work and when you spend time with them. And the time with them needs to be totally focused on them, with no phones or work of any kind. Then, when you’re working they won’t mind, because they know they will get their own time with you later. I have recently implemented ‘Date Night’ with my husband. We have one night a week that’s just about us and no phones are allowed. Sometimes we just lounge at home and watch a movie. Other times we go out for dinner. We might take a class, or cook a meal together. Whatever it is, there are no phones 😉
So today I wanted to share with you how I keep a positive mindset. What I do to combat those bad moments, or days. How I stay focused and top of my game, even when I just want to throw in the towel. And believe me, every person who achieves success has faced moments where they want to give up. You can’t achieve without having failed. And boy does that achievement taste all the sweeter for it.
So here’s my top 5 tips on keeping a positive mindset:
1) Stop thinking that your success relies on others.
Your success relies on you helping others. If you give and work hard to help other achieve their dreams, then you will achieve yours. So your success relies on you. It relies on you giving . And that’s pretty awesome in my mind!
2) Surround yourself with positive people.
Negativity can drag you down, pull you into the darkness. Choose not to entertain it. Step back and stop hanging around with people who see things and say things that are always negative. It’s hard, but it has to be done.
3) Look for people who have what you want.
Find out how they got it, and model that behaviour. Firstly, that will help you with no.2 as they will be positive people. But also, we are the average of the 5 people we spend time with. This is something that master businessman Jim Rohn said. And I am inclined to trust and believe him. So if one of those people has what we want to achieve then that will help us get there. And that will keep us positive. You want those people to have a killer positive mindset. Because if you’re the most positive then their social influence will rub off on you. That means you’ll help to make them more positive. But they’ll also be making you less so.
4) Never stop believing you can do it.
You can succeed and achieve those dreams and goals you want. Doubting yourself is your fear talking. As human beings we are driven by fear, it is in our deepest nature as part of our survival instinct. So it is where the mind naturally goes. It’s OK, and it’s normal. But it’s NOT TRUE. It’s fear, and you can get past it. Believe you can do it, visualise you can, think about every tiny detail of you achieving what you want and feel it like it’s happening. Hold on to that feeling and never let it go.
5) Read daily.
Obviously you need to choose books that are uplifting and will help you keep a positive mindset. I shall share my favourites soon. Now reading can work anyway you want it to. It can be done on your kindle, your iPad, you phone…. You can use Audible to listen while you’re working, or cooking, or preparing for bed. In fact listening to a book on Audible is one of my favourite things to do once I am settled in bed for the night and unwinding before sleep. I also love to listen whilst driving. You can read blog posts, and articles by your favourite positive influencers. You can watch and listen to YouTube videos by them, interviews even. Podcasts are another way to get this daily positive fix. The only rule here is to do it daily, no matter what, even if it’s for 5 minutes.
So that’s it, that’s my personal top 5 tips on keeping a positive mindset. What do you think? Is there anything you’d add to the list?